Once a mother, always a mother. When lil ones are born, women – be they sales reps, writers, publicists, doctors, or any other professional – start a new career they will stay in for the rest of their lives. This motherhood career will be educational and have its ups and down, but it will also provide a woman with a sense of fulfillment she never thought was possible.
Yet unlike a job outside the home, moms can't up and decide that they are ready for a change, do a 180 and try their hand at something else. Yes, they can change up their careers to explore their abilities in another profession, but the job of motherhood is never ending. At the end of the day, are you ever tired of being a mother?
Overwhelmed by a crying baby, fighting tots, overbearing in-laws, and competitive parents? Start venting in our anonymous group, A Place to Vent and share your stress with fellow moms who understand your plight.
In need of advice. This post was submitted by an Anonymous reader in the A Place to Vent group.
I am not a mother but I am Tee Tee (an aunt) to five beautiful little girls, ranging in age from nine years old to 10 months old. I was diagnosed as terminal a year ago and my sister and I finally decided it was time to sit down with the children and explain to them what is happening.
They know things are changing ... I am now in a wheelchair, I have to take a lot of medications, I constantly monitor my heart, etc. While the two youngest really don't understand anything, the three older girls are really struggling. I took care of all five of them last week and the oldest, Ashleigh, would barely leave my side. Seriously, I had to lock the bathroom door just to pee in peace! I understand her fear but I'm not sure of how to reassure her while still being honest.
The bottom line of all of it is that my health is affecting the entire family and that includes them. They have the right to a (limited) access of information and they need that information because they know that something is not right. Can anybody give me some suggestions on how to make this easier on them. I am already writing them letters for the future, journaling for them, videotaping myself, etc. That's for the future though. Is there anything I can do for them now?
Let it all out in our anonymous A Place to Vent group over in the LilSugar Community.
A member of the LilSugar Community is closing in on her due date and is wondering when the mother-child bond will set in. She wrote in to our anonymous A Place to Vent group, saying:
I'm 28 weeks on Sunday. This marks going into my third trimester. Even though I can feel my little one quite clearly inside me, I still can't believe I'm pregnant. Receiving gifts (i.e. car seat, crib, and clothes) [brings] me down to Earth and reminds me that I'm preparing to have a new addition to my life. I just wonder if . . . feeling like this is still [so] unworldy is going to have consequences when I actually do give birth. I'm not worried about the mothering thing. I've helped with my sister's kids – almost acting as a second mom at times. [But] I can't wait to have him smile just for me. Or to see his face light up when I come in the room, to feel that bond that is like no other in the world.
Let it all out in our anonymous group, A Place to Vent, and share your stress with fellow moms and mamas-to-be who understand your plight.
There comes a day when a marker makes its way onto the walls, the floor, your outfit or all three! When it happens, it's never a pretty scene. Rather than suffer in silence, mamas can turn to "Stuff" My Kids Ruined a visual blog filled with photos of furniture, meals and clothing that kids have intentionally or accidentally destroyed. Readers submit photos that have one-sentence captions that are enough to make fellow moms perusing the site laugh or cry.
Over the past four years, I have had to dispose of a beloved throw pillow, several picture frames, and countless cozy t-shirts after my sons were through with them. Tell us, what have your kids ruined?
The first few days after a baby's birth are like living in a bubble so hospital visitors shouldn't burst it. Doting mothers stare at their new bundles of joy in awe and focus on if and when their babies are eating, sleeping and pooping. The following is a list of off-limit topics and behaviors for those heading to the maternity ward.
- Don't snap mad photos without permission — especially if the mama has a visible catheter bag or stained sheets.
- Don't stare or ask to touch her brand-new Dolly Parton boobs. News flash: engorged breasts hurt!
- Don't ask if she had her tubes tied or if her hubby is getting a vasectomy.
- Don't discuss the family's carbon footprint.
- Don't ask if there's any way the baby's conehead can be molded.
- No matter how big the baby's head is, don't speculate about the size of her pelvis or hips.
- Don't refer to the child as having "elf ears."
- Don't attribute every baby smile to gas.
- Don't mention that you think today's parents don't have a clue.
- Don't ask when they are going to try for another one!
- Don't question if the husband is really the father since the baby looks nothing like him!
- Don't try to persuade the parents to change the baby's name by coming up with all the awful nicknames you think the child faces.
- Don't talk about everything that is wrong with the world.
- Unless she offers, don't ask the degree of her tear.
- Don't exclaim, "Oh, I love your mom pooch!" It's not like she can speed up a contracting uterus.
Add your additions to this list below!
When did cursing go from four letter words and those with a token five to half of the dictionary? Words like "crap" and "sucks" always teetered on the thin line between appropriate language and swearing for some, but now it seems that everything is a bad word. "Oh, my gosh," "heck," and "whatever" are off limits in lots of households as are "stupid," "dumb," and "butt."
It's understandable that parents (who may be curtailing their own language) prefer that their children grow up using certain words over others but have moms and dads gone too far categorizing "darn" with "&$#%"? What mainstream words do you deem inappropriate for your kiddos? Or, which off-limits words do you find ridiculous?
The heir and the spare. That saying always made me feel sorry for Prince Harry, now it makes me pity those who said it. In similar sentiment, strangers have referred to my newborn as a bonus baby. Since I already had a daughter and a son, they assume my lil guy is the extra kid that we didn't really need, but had anyways. It's not the case, but when it comes to having kids — it's impossible to keep the public happy. When you have a girl, they ask when you're trying for a boy and vice versa. If parents have two same sex children, they are expected to try for the opposite. When a mom has more than two she's suddenly a breeder, and the family's carbon footprint is discussed when baby number five arrives. No one can win — even women without children are hounded about why they aren't reproducing. So let's vent, what is your biggest qualm?
This post was submitted by an anonymous member in our A Place to Vent group.
My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for two years. It's been a beautiful, hopeful, but upsetting process. Our hopes are set so high, but it just hasn't worked out yet. I had a miscarriage right before the holidays so we've decided to take a few months off while we both heal and prepare to try again. My doctor is completely optimistic, as are hubby and I, that it will eventually happen because all our test results look good. All in all, I'm really proud of myself and how positive I've stayed throughout this journey and know that a baby — whether a biological child or adopted — awaits us. Our close friends and family all know most of the details and have remained supportive and upbeat. I couldn't ask for a better support system. Here's where it gets complicated: For whatever reason strangers have started asking me if I'm a mom, which has caused me to burst into tears twice in the past few weeks.
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